I was married to my first W for 13 yrs. We stayed together for our son, then one day knew that wasn't good for any of us.
We both had affairs. I had three and found out after D she had had a couple too.
My WAW, W#2 M 4yrs, now has OM and we are trying to work out out issues and hopefully get back together. We go to coaching and date each other several times a week.
That said. I am feeling the worst I have ever felt in my life. This may just be Karma for my past transgretion to my first wife. This is the crappiest felling ever to know that the one you love is wife another person. I do not wish this feeling on anybody. Ha helped me loose over 50 lbs, not wanting to loose it either.
I have talked to XW and taken ownership of what she already knew about. Telling her that if this is the feeling she felt I am deeply sorry and very suprised that she would even talk to me.
Now being on the other side of the fence I don't know how to react. I feel I am being wronged by WAW. I feel that if she could put the effort into us that she is into him that we may progress and get back together. She has even said she has hope for us.
Any input?
thanks