How could anyone think you're a pansy (peonies excepted but they're not known for their brain power)? I think most folks view their marriages like they do life as a seventeen year old.. immortal.. and think it will last forever just 'cuz.
I see older couples sitting together and wonder how they did it, do it? Companionship has a lot to do with it.
As far as I can tell you're great with a deep soul, incredible sense of humor, a little stinky from all the stoogies and a very good guy... definite babe magnet.
