Lately, he is going out of his way to reach out. Calling to talk to our daughter and then speaking to me, emailing me with random topics, commenting on my own facebook photos with our daughter and me in them. Not sure what to make of this, but I take them as positive signs, but not trying to read too much.
Then on the flip side he can be somewhat rude.
My husband and I do video chat or phone call with our daughter every night. Sometimes he does a call because he is out.
He hangs with his friends and usually stays at one of their places at least once a week. Today he told me he will be out and we can do video chat from his friend's place.
I am not sure how to feel about this. I am pretty sure the friend is one who smokes out and that is why he is staying. I also believe it is because he is busy cleaning our house. It is on the market now and he does not want it to get messed up. I tried to get out of the chat, but he says he is never too busy to talk with his baby.
Sometimes I think he does it to make me jealous. He is very open about his plans, but doesn't tell me all the details. I pretend I don't care. I figure if it was something really shady, he wouldn't invite a video chat at the friend's into the equation. This is something he has never done before. He usually just says he will call.
I am doing my part to leave him alone. I don't go out of my way to talk with him about anything but business.
I also know he is home the majority of the time including late Fri and Sat. night. Not sure if he is alone, but he is spending that time writing comments on his pages. Not quite the actions of someone who has a full social life. So I am not sure what to think. Ugh, not even sure why I care anymore.
He is staying at a friend's house this week as our house is officially on the market. There is an open house this weekend and he wants it spotless in case people stop by during the week. I am trying to refrain from asking him where he is staying, etc. I don't need to know and at the same time, want him to wonder why I don't ask (which I would have done before).
The funny thing is that with his issues, if I act or tell him I don't care, I know that would be like a dagger to him. He has acted hurt before when I have expressed this, even after all that has happened. I think it still stems from his abandonment issues, and the pain of thinking I don't care anymore.
My therapist feels that based on some of his statements, he believes I would be there waiting if he changes his mind. I need to show him this is not the case by just leaving him alone and acting like I don't care.
