Moving her from Newbees

[Clayton]

Cotoffgard,

I must be detaching a little more. The cheese is starting to look a little stale today.

It is possible that in the future I may get to the point where I can't do this anymore. Having to monitor everything I say incase it is taken the wrong way, always having to be positive even when I've had a bad day, having to worry about showing my true intentions in case it is interpreted as pursuit.

I may just say.....bollocks to all this.

[Clayton]

W just called to confirm that we are going catch up tonight. She sounded pretty excited to meetup.
It's going to be nothing fancy...just pizza and beer. Maybe go somewhere for gelato after.

I'm pretty beat from work ....so I'm going to hit the gym first to try and get the blood pumping.

Another chance to DB and try make a good impression. I'm going to try and be a bit more playfull then usual and drop a complement at the end of the evening.

[optimistwife]

The dichotomy of it all... We all talk about our thoughts of just throwing in the towel, and then in the next post are getting ready to go out and look our best.

I know exactly how you feel. It so hard having a little bit of what we want, but not being able to have it all. It is soo hard to think about the time when we lived together, were planning our future. Now each day is a surprise, let alone what next year will hold.

I am just starting to contemplate x-mas and whether I will travel home (likely alone?) to visit my family, or stay here? Holidays are hard- and that is just thinking about them!

Well, I hope you have a great night out with your W. Good luck with being playful. Isn't it hard to go back to dating again?

[cotoffgard]

"I must be detaching a little more. The cheese is starting to look a little stale today."

I know what you mean. I'm getting a bit lactose intolerant myself!

It's been almost 2 months and I haven't seen or spoken to my W. Hell, I'm starting to forget what she looks like in person...how she smells...what she sounds like when she talks and laughs...

Clay, have you ever wondered if perhaps subconciously your W wants to "date" you all over again? Kinda like a fresh start to rekindle the magic? From my vantage point, it sure sounds like she wants to be wooed all over again, so maybe that's the angle you should take? Perhaps treat her like some cute gal you met somewhere and want to get to know better. After a couple of dates, maybe a dash of flirting and a pinch of seduction *wink wink nudge nudge*. No talks of R or M whatsoever.

Oh hey, don't forget to ask her about the WWI biplane ride! Adrenaline rush = good aphrodisiac!

[Clayton]

Update:
Everything went great. I complemented her on how good she was looking.
She was wearing a top that exposed her shoulders and arms. I caressed her several times throughout the evening. She didn't pull away...infact she kinda leaned in a bit.
Had a couple of drinks and pizza at a joint in downtown San Diego, walked around for a bit, then went to a gelato shop for ice-cream and chatted for about another 30 minutes.
She said that she had a really good time.
All in all....a pretty good night.

[cotoffgard]

Huh...there's stuff to do in downtown SD after the sun goes down? Go figure. I've only been around gas lamp area for evening grubs and nightlife.

In any case, sounds like you two are "dating" again and are having fund doing so. Would it be premature for you to take her to your Salsa lessons?

Keep up the awesome work! You make it look so easy, man!

[Clayton]

There is heaps of stuff to do in downtown SD. This is a pretty cool city....and it has the best weather.

If it was anyone else..I would say we were dating. With this situation, I don't really know what I would call it.

Whatever it is...we both had a lot of fun last night.

What's good is that she hasn't been turning me down when I ask her out unless she already has something scheduled....and then she will raincheck.

[Clayton]

Word is getting around at work that I am now single. We have roughtly 600 woman in my building. W better hurry up and decide what she wants from life.

Next month I am going to Nepal for about 30 days. I'm going to hike the Annapurna Circuit and then do the Everest base camp trek.

Another check off the bucket list.

[Clayton]

I was at Salsa class today and one of my dance partners would not leave me alone.
At the end of each dance we typaclly watch the instructers demo what the next dance moves will be.
She would not let go of my hand and when I shock her off she just grabbed my arm and sholder and hung on until the next dance started.
It was the most physical contact I've had with anyone in about 6mths.
I really quite like this girl and I'm going to see her again at next weekends class.
I almost feel guilty about this.....

[cotoffgard]

Dangerous territory, my friend. Although I know all too well the "intoxication" of what life "can be" without your W. I've got this one young woman texting me when she was in Vegas for a bachelorette party this weekend...Vegas mind you! I wasn't looking for any of this attention at all, but the confidence boost went straight to my head! I guess this is how most EA's/PA's start off - venturing into the land of "what if's". It's nice to know that there's a nice cushy safety net below should the M fail, but the net's only there because we're supposed to keep trapezing above to save our M.

I guess there's a possibility that you can do too much GAL'ing, eh?

Ah, how "greener grass" tempts us so...

Would taking your W to one of your salsa lessons be an option for you at this time? Maybe you could use the "attention" of this lass to your advantage.