1. I realised that it was just that, problems with the M that made feel the need to step outside of the M with another M. Those problems would occur with me in any M and also H will also make same mistakes. So why not give this M a dam good shot and see if we cant get back to where we were before the M started going down hill.
2. The family is best in tact. I believe there would be 1000 more problems with H and I not being married than there would be if married. We would always be in contact due to children. We would share grandchildren without the pleasure of sharing in the joys of our work.
3. No matter who you are in a relatioship with I believe in 5 years you all end in the same place. Those 2nd marriages that work, do so because effort is put in so the the mistakes of the first are not repeated. So make the effort with the first M.
4. I focused on what attracted me to H in the first place.
Hope it helps. I hope you can convince W and yourself that you could create a stronger , healthier M than anyone who has not put there lives through this Hell.
