Stayed home with D6 today. Just in case, I shot off a text to the wife letting her know that we were home sick, but she was ok. Never got a response. Ok by me.
I cooked dinner really early. Like at 2pm. I figured I'd go pick up D11 as soon as she got to the apartment. I then forgot to call the afterschool sitter to let her know that D6 won't be on the bus. I can't find her number. I called wifes work and the phone rang for about 4 minutes. Must be busy. I send her an email asking for the ladies number. No response. I figure I'll call her cell. She answered. She was at the apartment. I was asking for the ladies number and she said ok, but why? I told her I send her a text, but she says she never got it. Getting the number from her cell, she hangs up on me. She calls me back a minute later. She now sees the text but never saw it before. I tell her about myself being sick and D6.
I also tell her that I intended to pick up D11, but that D6 just fell asleep on the sofa. She says that its ok. D11 will be fine there for a while. She tells me to get some rest. D11 is still another hour away. Call her when D6 gets up. I end up passing out too. About an hour later, we are getting ready to go and I call the wife that we are leaving. She sounds funny. She then asks me if I've spoken to D11 lately about anything. I ask what about. That we talk. She asks again if we have discussed anything. I ask why, because we talk about a lot of things.
"Well, she is outside just sitting on a tree looking down. She has been so distant to me."
"Well, we talk. She has been down about her not making many friends at school or the apartments. She is dealing with a lot of stuff. She isn't happy about us. She is upset."
"You have talked about us. We've talked, also. What did you say?"
"I told her that we have to deal with what we have been given. That whatever happens is making us stronger. That we didn't choose our circumstances, but we have to keep going."
Wife stays quiet. "And she doesn't worry about me. We've talked before. I've told her that I'm fine. We have just gotten really close. She likes to call me."
I tell her to hold on because D6 is now asking if we are going to the apartment. I tell her yes and that we'll be leaving soon.
She waited for me to finish with D6 and said, "Well, good for you. That ya'll have gotten close. I think that I'm going to go talk to her. She has such a hard time making friends."
"Talk to her. You need to. We talk pretty often. She is too shy."
"Well, don't be in a hurry to get here. I'm going to go outside to talk to her. S14 should be here soon. If he was here, I would have taken them."
D6 and I take our time. I almost considered taking the chicken that I cooked, but then changed my mind. D6 even asked if we could eat at the apartment. I told her no. We need to come back and eat. By the time we get to the apartment, the wife and D11 are sitting at her dining table doing something. S14 had answered the door. By the door is a huge canvas bag with handles. About 3 feet by 3 feet.
"Now son, I've heard of big backpacks but come on."
The wife says, "Noo. That is the blow up castle bounce." "Ohhh. Its easy to put up?" "Yeah, it should be. Miguel is going to help me with it."
So no OM at the party setting it up or tearing it down, but by her reaction to my questioning on Sunday, it has to be from OM. No reason NOT to tell me where she got it. She would normally have been proud to tell me that someone she knows had it and let her use it so that we didn't have to pay for one.
Good for her. I hope it doesn't accidentally get a knife slice on the side of it at the end of the day.
D11 comes to tell me hello. D6 goes to tell the wife hello. D11 tells me excitedly how she has a phone number to a friend she met today. I am excited for her and give big hugs. She then finishes what she is doing at the table with her mom. They are all talking about something. I go and have a seat on the sofa and begin to watch tv. She looks over to me and asks if I'm taking something because I don't look well. Like I look drunk.
"I know. My eyes are puffy." D6 then comes and sits next to me and leans into me with my arm around her. D11 goes to do something, and the wife sees us, gets up and comes and sits right next to D6 on the other side. I'm patting D6's behind and also playing with the dog who has jumped on my lap looking for attention. The wife has to start patting D6's leg and says, "Poor baby. You didn't feel good today?" They are talking and I'm playing with the dog. Then D11 and S14 are somehow wrestling on the floor in front of us under the coffee table. The wife is pretending to step on D11. I'm tickling S14 and then I'm reaching over the wife leg to tickle D11 also. I then have to get on them because of course, they start to get out of hand. S14 gets up and then D11 bonks her head right on the corner. I totally saw it. She is rubbing her head and almost has tears but stays strong. I help her up, rub her head for her and the wife gets a freezer pack.
I start to try to get the kids going. The wife asks them if they want tater tots that she was about to make. I tell her I made chicken already. "Oh...you HAVE chicken?"
She asked it in a very odd way. I told her earlier on the phone when I called her the first time.
"Yes. I made chicken."
"Well, do you want some to take with you?" she asks S14. "Sure." he says.
So now I'm waiting for a bit for her to finish. We finally leave and she walks us out to the car. Out in the parking lot, she tells me goodbye and that she hopes I feel better. I tell her thanks. S14 and D11 start bickering already and I have to tell them both to shush it. The wife tells both of them to behave and be good. All of us in the car, she is mouthing to them to be good and for them to call her. Then she looks at me and does the same to me. She motions for me to have them call her later. I nod okay to her and I take off. D6 then opens the window and starts yelling, "Bye momma! I love you!" "No, I love you!" the wife yells back. They did it about 5 times as I'm driving away.
At home, after dinner, S14 doing his homework, D6 in bed, I talk to D11 a little. Is everything ok? Did her mother talk to her. She says they talked about school and making friends. I ask if her mother talked about herself and I.
"I don't know." I ask a couple times and get the same response. She doesn't want to talk about it. While I'm trying to talk to her, we're playing tic tac toe, so that I can distract her. I didn't work. Then we start to play hangman and we are cracking ourselves up. We are laughing and laughing. I tell her its time for bed, go change and then come back. She goes and comes back and I remind her to call the wife. She does and they talk for a while, but while they are talking, she is throwing darts in my room. She is distracted talking to her. Then she throws the dart and it sticks in my wall. She starts to crack up and I tell her to stop throwing darts. She keeps talking and then hangs up.
So I got another opportunity to throw some darts of my own tonight and I don't think mine missed and got stuck in the wall. I don't think they were bullseyes, but I think there were some triple 20's
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."
