Trying2live- the new post 1

[TxMomw/2girls]

OK ladies... I hate when my job gets in the way...

Couple of things.. It was suggested to me by my attorney that you can request co-parenting counseling... I know your kids are older so might not be worth it but my lawyer said many couples get back together once forced to go through counseling together. Also mediation as well... I definitely read this too... so pour your heart out in that letter and yes we'll read it so post when you can... I know if my H files I will request him to go to counseling and for us to do co-parenting counseling.

I can't even get through DR as I have no time to read anymore.... I started Surviving an Affair but went back to DR as I need tools now to work on... I will do the questionaire in the back this weekend though...

I talked to H tonight he sounded all depressed... I had asked him if he still wanted to do dinner with all of us tomorrow (which he had said he would twice before) and tonight he said no probably not.. I then asked if he was OK as he sounded different than earlier or a few days ago especially regarding dinner.. He said he'll be at the house when I get home to hang out and do gifts from the girls....

he said he doesn't want to go to Houston either (he has business Friday there and his family is going to be there for the weekend) first time he'll be around his Mom, Dad and brother's family since this has all happened.... he hasn't really even talked to them about what is happening.. should be an interesting weekend for him

He mentioned he was pissed about a promotion he had talked to his boss about today and he started going off on his job to me.. Sometimes I wonder why I'm giving my ear to him but I am trying to play nice... as I know being an angry biattchh doesn't work either..

I was hoping he'd do dinner so it would be time with us and not OW.... I had got a post on my thread and after my C appt yesterday I realized that we all really need to separate the OW from why our H are wanting out of the marriage... focus on why they think they want out as if they had no one else in the picture... we would all be nice and working on our 180's and marriage even if it was just us doing it... the OW makes this complicated but she said to just pretend she is not there.. she is a by-product and not worth the focus... this is coming from someone who had a sucess story and her and H are back together now after his affair...