Your anger is there on the surface Frank, and you're going to have to deal with it at some point. We all HOPE that our spouse who wants free will get out in the real world and find it not so much to their liking. That's natural. But I see you slipping close to actually wanting to see her suffer. And while I understand where that's coming from, I hope you realize it's not a healthy place, and you need to deal with it and get down from that position.
I do agree with you, it's not a good place to be. I don't _want_ her to suffer. I think she is being financially foolish and is going to find herself in a bad place.
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Maybe what's happening is that you are finally moving to the place where you are ready to let your wife FEEL the repercussions of her choices.
Yes, the number one repercussion I'm wrestling with is moving myself to 'indifference' instead of 'friendly'. I hate myself for being friendly when I should be indifferent. She is just someone I HAVE to deal with, that I would rather NOT deal with.
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Maybe you are ready to stop the easy access to the house, under the guise of seeing the girls. Non-custodial parents typically do NOT have the option of seeing the kids in the custodial parents home. And I know you are not divorced, but you are separated.
Yeah, that's a tough one because I would rather she see them here so they don't have to go to where she is living and be exposed to OM loser.
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Channel this anger into positive, healthy choices for you. Begin to eliminate the things that bring constant reminders of the hurt she has caused, and begin to clean up your life of those reminders.
That's what I'm doing. Channeling it into positive steps.
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You ARE a good man. Unfortunately, like many of us, you wound up with a spouse who was not equally good.
