Boundaries Boundaries Boundaries. I keep meaning to set them but I allow him to cross them all the time. It is especially hard with getting our house to sell...We have to see each other alot and we get everything set. I am already starting to work with my therapist about when I get my own apartment and setting boundaries so I don't have him come there.
H & I, both 32, together since 18. *M 7/03, A since 9/06. Bomb 7/07, H ended it w/ OW 9/08 * Agreed to D 6/09...very hard *D 8/10 * At peace, have become great friends w/ X-H and his new GF
H is seeing OW again. Saw that he went down to visit her at 1130pm last night (Via his EZ PASS on his car). He is supposed to be here helping me set the house up to get it up on the market. His phone is off (it is NEVER off) and I left him a message to see when he is coming over and if he wanted to grab some lunch first (trying to make him feel a little guilty). There is nothing I can say.
I want to say, "you are such and effing tool. I want to say, "I can't believe I allowed you to use me as a crutch." I want to say, "I may be able to forgive you for the pain you caused me. But I will never forgive the fact that you put zero effort into saving our marriage."
H & I, both 32, together since 18. *M 7/03, A since 9/06. Bomb 7/07, H ended it w/ OW 9/08 * Agreed to D 6/09...very hard *D 8/10 * At peace, have become great friends w/ X-H and his new GF
Hey Beth, Sorry that you had to discover he is back with her again. If they've already broken up once though, in that time and she's cheated, its not looking like a true love/longterm prospect thing !? All I can say is, theres a lot of Mercury retrograde action over the past 3 weeks, in Libra, which is all about ex's getting back in touch or reconnecting with someone from your past.. but that often, things started then dont stick once Mercury moves forwards. I dont know, I cant tell from here, but wait until end of October, at least, would be my advice, to see if they are still together then. I am sure it must be so painful for you, but if he is still in contact with you, I'd say give it a few weeks before burning your bridges.
Unless like Mishka said, you really have had enough and just want a D. Al xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
