Hey, Mrs. H! I have been wondering how you were doing!
I am so sorry about your house! I know this is a difficult thing for you to deal with. But, I promise you that you will get through this, too. When my exH and I separated, I had a GMC Envoy. It was a really nice vehicle w/ lots of luxuries. Last July, I had to let it go. I just could not afford the gas or the payments. The day they came and got it, I cried and cried. I so loved that vehicle. But, I had to come to terms w/ the fact that it was just a vehicle. I still had my kids and my health. When my time comes, I could not take the vehicle w/ me. And, yes, it was just a thing. And, as much as it meant to me, in the grand scheme of things, it really wasn't that important.
Mrs. H., I know you love your house. And, I know how difficult letting go is. But, you're right. Home is what and where you make it. Don't think of it as letting go of something. Think of it as a new beginning...a fresh start. A chance to take a new place and make it YOUR'S!!! Man, what a GREAT opportunity. I truly envy you of that! I got my house (even though the ex has yet to sign the papers)....it needs more work than I could even begin to tell you...probably more work than I really want to know about. (And, definitely more than I can afford right now.)
Look for the positives....they are there....and focus on them.
