There is no more moving forward with her. As sad as it is her problems are greater then anything that I can do. I am not sure she will still seek the help she needs, I do hope so. Emotionally it rips my heart out, rationally I have to move on. It is an obstacle that is to high to climb at the moment.
So a year is too long for you to wait? If the situation is reversed and the W was told to wait for you for a year, would you want her to do that? It's your decision of course. If she is confused, will she try no contact with OM? (I'm thinking that might help with her confusion.) Is she willing to try counseling for the next year if she knows that's a dealbreaker for you (if she won't)? Karen
