Hey Marisol, another thing I think that can be beneficial is a phrase I learned when I took in 3 foster children. The courts and social workers always loved hearing the statement, "in the best interest of the children". The courts look out for kids and look highly on those who do the same. Drop that phrase as much as possible to all parties, your attorney, the courts, mediators, his attorney, you get the idea.

Example: I am requesting reconciliation because I love my H and have invested many years in creating "our" family and I feel it's in the best interest of "our" children and their future stability to reconcile. Tearing apart the family would be detrimental to our children and not in their best interest. etc etc etc

Always use "our" so it makes it look like your not just looking out for yourself.

By the way are you in a fault state?

Me-38 H-38
Married 18years
Daughter-17 & Son-9
Discovery of EA/PA 4/23/08
Left home 5/08/08
Moved in with OW 08/01/08

The only rock I know that stays steady, the only institution I know that works is the family.
-- Lee Iacocca