Dan is a luck man. I hope he can see that it is time for him to step up.
I think there is something to be said for "faking it until you make it", which is where it seems he's been since he came home. But, at some point you need to go from faking to making, and I think you are trying to tell him it is time. I like it, BobbiJo!
And I promise not to forget to check in piecing again!
