Personally, I would offer any of the family pictures to your daughters, to be kept in their room.
The rest I would put up, out of sight.
The last thing I needed after the ex left and took up with other guys was a daily reminder of the family we once had together.
My youngest was allowed to keep any pictures he wanted, and he can keep them in his room. I didn't throw any of them away, because one day the boys might want them. But I did not need to see them hanging in the house where she no longer lived, or cared to live.
This was for MY emotional well being.
Your anger is there on the surface Frank, and you're going to have to deal with it at some point. We all HOPE that our spouse who wants free will get out in the real world and find it not so much to their liking. That's natural. But I see you slipping close to actually wanting to see her suffer. And while I understand where that's coming from, I hope you realize it's not a healthy place, and you need to deal with it and get down from that position.
Maybe what's happening is that you are finally moving to the place where you are ready to let your wife FEEL the repercussions of her choices. Maybe you are ready to stop the easy access to the house, under the guise of seeing the girls. Non-custodial parents typically do NOT have the option of seeing the kids in the custodial parents home. And I know you are not divorced, but you are separated.
Channel this anger into positive, healthy choices for you. Begin to eliminate the things that bring constant reminders of the hurt she has caused, and begin to clean up your life of those reminders.
You ARE a good man. Unfortunately, like many of us, you wound up with a spouse who was not equally good.
Now it's time to fish or cut bait.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
