this is something I learned from Retro. I learned to say nice things to him, even if I wasn't really thinking them. My H likes to climb mountains. I like it at a slow pace, but not a steep uphill climb. On the trip to Jackson Hole a couple of weeks ago, while I was speaking at the conference, he climbed up the ski mountain next to the hotel. After that he could barely walk. When I finished the conference, I wanted to let loose and celebrate my relief at a job well done. But he didn't want to walk around the town and find a new restaurant, or have drinks, or look in the shops. He wanted to lie in bed and watch tv. And he was too tired for sex too. I was a little miffed. But I didn't let him know that. I said "I like the fact that you are very active for your age and you do a lot of physical activities and keep yourself fit." He really ate up that compliment. And the next day he was ready to do things together. I am proud of myself for not acting snippy at the time. But without my Retro training, I certainly would not have done the right thing, and might have said something that would have ruined the trip for both of us.
