Yes, my husband shows love the same way, and I too don't feel that going off to work 14 hours day shows me love. I've told him time and again that he would be doing the same thing if the kids and I didn't exist. But knowing his answers, and giving him an opportunity to explain them to you while you listen with your heart are 2 different things. So you need to pretend that you don't know the answers, and you are not about to reject all the answers, and really listen. And give him credit for what he does. It's not a choice of this or that. He is who he is and you need to love him for who he is.
