It's nice to get the viewpoint of SC. She's been there and she always gives the viewpoint from the AWAW. SC you've helped me more than you know - as I'm sure many people can say the same thing.
nds you keep saying nothing has changed in your sitch. I'd say something has changed - you. In your own words you said you started treating her the way she deserves to be treated. And because you've changed, the sitch has to automatically change. No one can guarantee the outcome, but imagine where everything would be right now if you hadn't changed.
Your best bet is to continue being consistent with those changes, and when you see an oportunity for more positive change, take it and run with it. It's exactly what you've been doing all along.
Yes, I know...thanks for stopping by SC...any time you want to pipe in...please do, I appreciate the female perspective.
Steady, I meant that it feels like the "sitch" itself has not changed much since the beginning. Even the first week after the bomb...after a few days of awkwardness...we went out to a show and had a great night together. Those things we have done since this all started...she has never really refused me quality time, we have fun, we ML....and that has always been the strange and confusing part to me through all of this.
What I have noticed more lately is the lack of awkwardness during the normal parts of our lives. There is more conversation, more questions about our days from each other. Before it seemed the majority of communication came when we were out partying or going away, or drinking at home...the crazy, over the top stuff, then she would wake up the next morning and say..."wait a minute, don't get the wrong idea her".
Now we sit and talk about politics, watch a football game together, or a movie, have dinner and there is normal everyday conversation.
What still bothers me a little is the bed thing....as much as we do, and as intimate as we are, she still spends more than half the nights on the couch....sometimes even ending up there after we ML. That's one I just can't figure out....maybe her way of obtaining, or keeping the space that she needs.
