Hey Jon, I'll give you a little something to think about. I have a good friend who said to me that there are lots of ways to have a relationship including a marriage relationship besides the standard both of you live in the same house and sleep in the same bed. He knows a couple that are married and monogamous, but, they live in different houses. It's weird, but, apparently works for them.
So, if there were no OM, I could maybe have found peace with a married relationship with my W and yet living in different houses. With the OM, I'm 99.9999% gone, but, I suppose that there is always the possibility for reconciliation. When she stayed overnight to watch the kids 2 weeks ago and we sat around the table and ate pancakes together, it was pretty good. Of course, later I read the text from her OM telling her that he wished she was with him, but, to enjoy the pancakes. That was definitely weird.
So, living together in San Antonio while hiding it from everyone else might not be so bad.
