LADYBUG trying to detatch..but doesn't know how.

[jon2911]

Ms B, I have to agree with Sara on the shower story. Wow.

I'll tell you something my Counselor told me a year ago, when W was pressuring me to sign the divorce papers. I was dragging my feet, not wanting to make it easy on her. My C said "she thinks you're the problem, and the only way to change that is to give her what she wants".

I've thought that about your H for a while now. Be reasonable of course. Moving out by this weekend is NOT reasonable. But he may, like my W, need to go all the way through with the divorce before he realizes you aren't the problem. He won't be any more happy in the house without you. It will be worse.

Definitely get a lawyer consult before moving out though.