H has never been a big sayer of ILY, in our Marriage history. He said in the past that if you said it too often, it didn't mean anything.
But he showed me he loved me. He would write the most amazing letters to me all about how he loved me, what he loved about me, etc etc
On 2 different occasions he sent me 12 christmas cards 12 days in a row for the 12 days of christmas.
He left a trail of balloons leading up to my dorm room for our dating anniversary.
He got a group of fraternity brothers to drive 2 hours to my college town to serenade me when he proposed.
He still wrote long notes/letters in his cards to me up until about 2 years ago. One of the last ones I got was 2 christmases ago, a couple months before the A started up. We had been fighting a bit the night before b/c he was working on a project in the garage and wouldn't come to bed. Turns out he was up all night installing a CD player in my car for me, which I had never had before, for Christmas.
His card said, "No matter how long the night or how bad the fight, I will always be here and always love you".
With gestures like that, I don't need to hear it everyday. Without those gestures, I would like to hear it. With no words AND no gestures, what is left???
