Hi all! Long and last one I promise! lol maybe LOL
Well I was going to let my thread just slip off into the sunset, had nothing to say of interest, not that thats ever stopped me before lol and I figued it was time to leave, after all most of the people who wrote to me are all gone bye bye now, just have to keep in touch the old fashion way.
Then I thought well gosh, I dont like leaving things undone. So i'll just wrap it up.
5-1/2 yrs when I came here, about 6 months after ex left , I like most everyone here was devastated, lost, scared, angry, you name it.
Fast forward this weekend, We took a trip up to Pismo Beach, a darling little beach town up central coast, about 4 hrs away, B and I were sitting outside , having dinner and drinks and watching the sunset over the ocean, it was just beautiful! We had had a great day, playing tourist at Hearst Castle, our hotel was right on the waters edge- We had done a little Christmas shopping in town, wine, shopping and shrimp, seriously it dosnt get much better then that for me! lol
I sat there that night, and my mind drifted to 6 yrs ago in July when my ex dropped the bomb on me out of the blue. I honestly didnt think I'd even smile or be happy again, never mind find love and be happier then ever, and the most important thing to me, to really feel loved and appreciated, something when I look back ex could never provide, never returned the love.
It all came together last week, when my ex called me and again out of the blue, the man loves shock and awe it seems, Started the convo w/ a nasty attitude and yelling, I was gobsmacked. We had been getting along realy well for close to a year.
A week earlier he had asked me what the deal was w/ our S and his "gf" in NY, its been going on a while and well, we are all curious about a R where they do not see each other, and seems to be keeping them from being open to new R.
Anyway, not a big deal but as a mom I and others who love S are curious about it. Ex had asked me and I had suggested on their bonding trip to Boston he bring it up " good idea" was his reply
So i tm him and asked if he had found out anything ( i never call him--- for a few reasons lol) well the phone rings and BOOM , out came the spew I remembered from 6 yrs ago, " what the He!! Karen? what doyou want to know?? geeze" I didnt know what to say as I was shocked I told him it was no big deal just ,,just,,,well, I didnt get much more out as he went off on me and told me He was not taking sides! SIDES?? I never ever said that, i just thought he found out more then I could.
I sat there dumbfounded then shook it off and said listen here EX! do not yell at me, ya lost that privledge 6 yrs ago , I asked a question--I was concerned about OUR S, thats all- no sides to be taken! Just concern, and do not ever call me yellig again, in fact, unless there is an emergency, do not call me period.
I was very shocked as just this last summer an incident came up and when I called ex w/ concern he sang my praises! Said he really liked that we could talk and confine n each ohter over S. WHAT HAPPEND? lol total strange behavior, anyway, i figure he was drinking as he did slur his words.
He tm me after and said, you'll never change! LOL oookkk so I realized at that moment that a friendship is not goign to work w/ him, sadly and I did try hard, I really did. I wanted us to have a good R for Rys' sake, but its not to be, just like we couldnt be family - in a way I am relieved as it was hard at times, being nice , friendly, all smiles when he came over, knowing the awful things hes done.
So it all came together, Having ex completley out of my life, even as a friendship, my new life w/ someone who I adore, and feel so safe and loved and like a partner with. Its a big difference and one I am glad to be involved with
So end of my DB story. Still have to come around to others threads tho, how can you not want to read Kevs antics and Alls quips and Barbs perfect sunshine threads and C2 inspiring words that I sometimes carry w/ me through out the day?? SG and Brig and Trip adn I'll stop before I forget anyone! and many others here I admire and look up to-- So being a guest here is gonna work out fine!
Happy Life everyone!
Be Happy for this Moment, This Moment is your Life
