God give me the patience and the strength...7

[MidwesternGirl]

My h has to go thru this on his own and in his own time, not mine.

He does talk as if he will be living here, he talks like we will be together when we are older and he talks like this with the kids as well.

H does come over to our home, Saturday, Sunday, a few times a week but I would rather love unconditionally, and be kind because boundaries do not always work. And this is his home, there is nothing I can do to prevent him from coming over and why would I? If I were to set boundaries about coming over that would push him further toward someone else.

OW is not important to him or me and if she was important to him, my kids would already have met her and they would be doing things together but he has no intentions of introducing them or taking the kids over where he lives.

So far this seems to be working for me.

Let me also say that my h and I can say ILY, miss you, etc. so the R talks are not an off limits thing. I just do not want to pressure him.