WAW - Possible MLC I need help, WAWs advice

[thrillisgone]

Its not for me or anyone else to tell you to throw out the divorce threat. Quite frankly I personally wouldn't talk divorce unless I was emotionally prepared to file for it and follow through with it. That is just me. By your posts it is obvious that you aren't ready to divorce or that you want to divorce.

You're trying to push this along. This is a marathon and not a sprint. Consistency is key. Yet you want to go dark for certain periods only and do her brakes etc?

Be mindful that she has another guy on the side AND she is reading your every move. If this is MLC don't assume that you really understand what is going on in her head or what she is thinking. She doesn't understand what she is feeling. What she feels and does can change on a dime. Trying to react to her every move in the short term is futile and may even damage your goal of reconciliation.

Consistency, firmness and working on yourself. Strength is also important. In one line you talk about not talking to friends and family and then you say "comments from people about conversations shes had over this weekend and Monday show a positive sign........"

You are pushing this and I understand. You're hurting and you love your W and you want reconciliation. However, you can't control her. You can only control you. Drop the rope, let go and carry on with your life. Let your W see this and give her the space and time to look at herself and start to figure things out for herself.

Be strong. We're here for you.