Don't get me wrong. I take advice. Just like everyones sitch is different, I have to weigh everyones advice. Maybe mold it to my sitch.
I NEED advice. Thats part of why I'm here. Not saying that I don't care what anyone HERE thinks. Far from it. I'll take the lumps as much as I'll take the praise. I give my honest thoughts here, I give my honest opinions to others and I expect it FROM others to me.
I absolutely expect a long haul. Always have. Until she pulls the trigger or oversteps a boundary and I have to.
I don't constantly think about her, but I have my days. Don't we all? I've detached myself from her. I think a pull back is in order, but your right, dub. How long I can do it is the question.
Like karen said on jeffs thread, take my journey day by day and let God lead me where He wants. Maybe I'm trying to manipulate too much. God may be WANTING me to move on down the road. I can't believe that he would be trying to test me so much with all the people he keeps puting in my path.
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."
Like karen said on jeffs thread, take my journey day by day and let God lead me where He wants. Maybe I'm trying to manipulate too much. God may be WANTING me to move on down the road. I can't believe that he would be trying to test me so much with all the people he keeps puting in my path.
H4H I lied in bed last night asking WHY? Why is He letiing this happen to my kids? What have they done to deserve what they are going through? IT MAKES NO SENSE!
I have faith, but it is getting severely tested. Hard to deal with when all my life, including 12 years of Catholic school, I have had faith that God will watch over all believers, especially the children.
LIS
M45 WW 43 D17/S14/D11
ILYB Jan 08 PA Conf Feb 08 OMW / OM contacted S Jan / 09
No one ever has, or ever will, escape the consequences of their actions.
It wasn't God that put you where you are right now. It was the temptations of the Devil and your wife falling into them that did. Her free will.
But then, Job always comes to mind.
Things happen for a reason. Try not to make the wife out to be evil. She does a good job of that on her own. Some of your actions lead them to choose. They already know who the rock is, just as mine do. Have to be careful with that. The kids don't need to know EVERYTHING. Just be there for them, comfort them if need be.
Be dad. This has already brought you so much closer to them than you ever could have imagined, hasn't it? Makes you wonder about the things that you were missing. I know it makes me think about it. Now I know how truly blessed I am.
Last edited by hopeful4her; 10/08/0804:04 PM.
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."
