W is coming today to talk about $$$. She just signed a lease for a house in our neighborhood, so she could be close to our D.

If she could buy a house, she would, but since she can't, there is less to deal with if we do reconcile.

I have so much anger with her right now. I still feel so betrayed 7 mos after the bomb.

I believe she still has feelings for me, but she is scared. She is scared of being in a R in which she does not feel loved. I really never got on board with the gift thing, which I found out about a year ago is one of her major love languages. I have tried the physical affection, her other love language, but she responded only weakly. She was afraid to give me any encouragement bc it would lead to sex. Which she is afraid of.

She has focused on the negative for so long (clinically depressed) that I feel that nothing I can do will get past her barriers. I know she bears a good portion of the responsiblity for where we are at, but she doesn't know that.

It's weird how I can post on other people's threads and give them good DB advice, but sometimes I cant figure it out for myself.

I admit I need input from you wise Db'rs out there.

I should have some $$$ soon, enough to possibly guy some DB counselling time. I also want to get Mort Fertell's marriage fitness program. Anybody out there ever tried that ?

Last edited by native; 10/08/08 03:38 PM.
Me 47, W 32,D 6,
Met 11 yrs. ago, M 7
Bomb 4/08/08, Sep. 8/10/08, Div. 8/10/09