I've been getting a lot of advice on what to tell the kids as things progress toward a divorce. However, it all boils down to sharing the responsibility for things not working out and frankly, I'm in no mood to carry any of the weight of her throwing us away. I'm no saint, but, in the 10 months or so of MC, it was always this is what Dan does and has done that is wrong and is causing problems. She said from the beginning that maybe there were to many hurts. In my mind, that was then and still is now a copout BS excuse for not wanting to change.
Yeah, there's a little anger and bitterness floating around. No, I don't want the kids to hate their Mom. Much.
It's just damned hard when I've born the brunt of things and I'm the one who had to wrestle with the temptations to be irresponsible, when I'm the one who grew and changed and became more in the hopes of saving things. To ask that I also bear this burden is very difficult.
Anyway, I'm confronting her tomorrow and confronting her with the divorce petition for her to sign.
