So do you suggest I continue to say ILY and be loving and supportive and know it is one-sided?
Or just stop doing it and don't expect any change in H?
I feel that I have run out of time and options,
I can continue to spend the next several weeks/months/who knows being the loving supporting caring wife, until H gets restless and leaves again.
I can mentally/emotionally detach myself and live a parallel life w/H so the kids have a "family" life. This will not last forever either I don't think b/c even if I vow to stick it out, H will probably get restless again
I can just tell H it is over if he can't give me what I need/want and then I must follow through and make him leave and tear apart my family.
Which of these sounds good to you guys???
Sorry I sound like a snotty brat today I am actually walking through work in a fog that feels a lot like the one I was in all last winter/spring. AND I DON'T WANT TO BE BACK "THERE" AGAIN.
I guess I left out the option where H comes to his senses and dedicates himself to being the husband he could/should be. But that doesn't seem all that likely.
I am kind of in a denial phase where I know what I see happening to us but I don't want it to happen. So I keep doing the same things, being loving, supportive, reaching out, reacting with hurt when I don't see H reaching back, trying harder to be loving supportive, and so it goes around and around.
