You need to make a plan. You are coasting day to day. You either back off until she comes back or divorces you or you give up and just "be friends" in hopes that she realizes she screwed up and comes back. You can't keep flip flopping...well, you can, but it won't help you any.
Good advice, but doesn't the backing off LRT method work the best from what I've seen here this past year? Plus, I think it's easier on the LBS really, too. But I agree with the making a plan and sticking to it. Karen
