I did forget to add W thanked me several times for giving her a special holiday and making a dream come true by taking her to Barcelona. The holiday made her very happpy and we did connect more and have a feeling of togetherness.
My concern is how to translate and maintain these feelings through everyday life.
Nice to hear you guys had a good time in Spain. Getting back to reality (the daily grind / routine) can be a bit tough for everyone involved. You guys have some momentum now....just keep it going.
Start practicing your Italian for next year's trip.
The house renovations are complete, well all of the major structural work is done, just need a couple of days of decorating, but at least all 3 of us are back in our own house.
Big drama of the week was W was let go by her second job for taking unauthorised leave (our trip to Barcelona). However it was all a big mis understanding, W had requested leave, but the email request went to the wrong person and wasn't processed. But because the company was left short of staff over the weekend they fired W by letter, but said she could appeal against the decision.
Anyway W asked me to write the letter and send it in for her. After the letter was read and her appeal heard, she received a phone call saying she could return to the job but would be on 6 months probation.
W thanked me for helping her and went onto day that she couldn't live without me cos I always help her out of difficult situations such as this. Question, how should I respond to comments like this, cos I just said yeah, no problem, anytime. Should I be milking this situation for all it is ?
So drama over I'm just pottering around the house tidying up, W at her second job, D7 at dance class.
Just tell her " Darling, I will always be here for you, I will take care of you, I want you to be happy, always..." and then go on to what you were doing before... Simple. K
Sunday wasn't a good day for me, the negative voice in my head which still thinks W is a lying, cheating b**ch, seemed to be getting the upper hand over the voice of reason which tells me to move forward and don't look back. The arguments used were, you've not ML for how long and it doesn't happen when you want it, or listen to the way she talks to you, she talks to you like you're a schoolboy or a POS. So when W wanted to discuss neutral paint colors, biscuit, eggshell, light gold, pale gold, ambiance, I just couldn't get interested (they all look like magnolia to me ). W accused me of not being interested cos I didn't jump immediately to look for paint thinners from the garage, and I reacted when she told me to get some from FIL as she had phoned him to get some from his garage. Anyway I retrieved the situation by going through all of the sample paints with W, and acting interested, I'm not sure which one we chose cos they all look the same to me.
Sunday night we watched a period drama we recorded from last week, as always I'm in the mood afterwards but W is just ready to sleep, so we fall asleep. Early Monday morning, as we wake W is still half asleep but asks me if we have time for a "quickie". Normally it's a yes from me, but I won't go into detail but the quickie doesn't happen cos I can't find something. But at least the negative voice is silenced for a while.
This Monday evening I come home feeling under the weather so me and D7 are in bed by 8pm. W gets home at 8.30pm but I can tell she peed with me cos she has been to the shops and has her hands full and has to knock on the door, I take a while to answer cos I'm in bed. I don't even get a hello, her first response is "you've left some windows open". Anyway I go back to bed, but I can hear W banging around downstairs clearly not in a good mood. I'm too tired to get into a discussion so I fall asleep. I'm woken by a W who says I'm snoring, I'm a bit feverish and can't get back to sleep so I now here downstairs typing away and drinking a lemsip (with a drop of brandy).
Last week on holiday was good, but real life, piecing is very hard.
