I'm also sorry to hear that H chose work over QT with his family. I can truly empathize with you on that one. The lack of QT in the beginning of my sitch is what ultimately did us in, I believe.
However, there was/is a reason why our Hs 'pick' work over time with the family.
Have you read "For Women Only" by Feldhahn? If not, pick up a copy from the bookstore, buy it online, or borrow it from the library. It's a real eye-opener. It was for me at least, and for many other DBers here also.
If you have read it, then try to remember that H isn't necessarily choosing to work. I'm willing to bet he would much rather be with you and the boys, but he can't because of his very strong desire and need to provide for you guys.
Your need for QT is very important, too. I am not dismissing that. Just saying try to remind yourself of something - When you feel upset about H working instead of staying home with you and the boys, he isn't doing it to hurt you. He isn't doing it to neglect you. He IS doing it because he LOVES you.
Hang in there, sweetie, and I hope your little guys feel better soon so you can get some rest!
(((((((Tal)))))))
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
