I have continued to read along. I am sorry about the latest things you have discovered.
On here we often talk about 'doing' what works. Well in your sitch it has always appeared that when you decide to plough your own furrow, regardless of your W, your W comes running. So, I would stop pandering too her.....when you do she just takes you for a ride. You don't need to be unkind about it. Just be calm, firm and consistent. Tell her what you have found out, tell her about how much this is affecting your career, tell her you can't continue this way and things have got to change. Also, take away the purse strings....it reads like you are buying her affections. She needs to stay, if she is going to, because she loves you, not for your purchasing power.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
