nds, let me remind you of something I posted a while back about words that are said.
My W has said:
I'm done. I'm totally done. Get the f*ck out of the house. I have my kids and my career and having nothing left for us. She told me she doesn't love me. She told me not to address her with any honey's, etc.. Don't say ILY to me. I don't want you touching me. Your very presence gives me anxiety and stress. I want to have sex, just not with you. There were so many more that it would take me a long while to type them here. But I think you get the point of where she has been in the past.
Steady Trust me, I think of your sitch and those words often when I think of my sitch. You and your wife have come a long way in a few months. Your wife opened up to you about the bad feelings she has had towards you, and now the good...lots of communication from both of you.
Unfortunately that is lacking with my wife and I, so like I have been 2x4's into realizing more and more....
ANW...Rootbeer...good one, Coach.
NDS
Steady is so right. I said words to my H too. I said;
I hate you. You will NEVER touch me again. I am DONE. Don't call me honey, sweetie, or anything other than my name.
The action I didn't do.........move out.
Hang in there, it sounds like things are progressing the right direction, no matter how slowly.
Hugs
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
