Yes, you are right and I do think in time my feelings will change drastically. Also, bizarre, you are right as she is only concerned w/ herself and getting mad at me. She is selfish and in complete denial about her choices.
Tonight she called me just about 45 minutes ago and said "What did you tell D?" I asked about what and she said "D told me you told her a judge decided where she'll live and now D says it is my fault."
Well, I corrected her and told her that b/c D was asking me repeatedly about why she didn't get more time w/ me I consulted w/ several experts and some children's therapists and they told me to tell her the truth. So I did. What I told D was this "when people get unmarried and they have children a judge has to decide where the children should spend most of their time. So a judge says you should live mostly w/ Mommy and visit Daddy. Eventhough we're not living together all the time, Daddy will always love you and be there for you."
So, that is what I said and there is nothing wrong w/ that. ZERO! XW kept badgering me and I asked her calmly, please note, "Why would I want to drive you and D apart?" XW's answer: "You seem to have a hard time not doing it and you've clearly done it before." I told her I hadn't badmouthed her to D and she corrected me and said "you've done it in front of witnesses."
She is right and I admitted it, by saying "Yes, you are right. I did say to your mother you were having an affair b/c you were." With that, she hung up the phone.
I sent her a text asking if we could finish the discussion as trust is a critical issue to solve b/t us. I did take responsibility for getting defensive, but DID NOT APOLOGIZE for doing it! That is a first for me.
She wrote back and said "not tonight. We have homework and a bath." I thanked her for responding and said I do hope we can talk later. I also stated I am telling the truth and I have been all along. I reminded her I've offered to take a polygraph in the past to prove it and will now as I've got nothing to hide.
I probably didn't need to add this last part, but honestly I'd love to do it just to prove to her and the world that I'm not lying so she can get off my rear about it. I know it won't help and in hindsight probably was unneeded, but rest assured that I won't be offering it again as I've now got documentation of offering two times. If she requests it, I'll do it, but I won't badger her to make me do it. My honesty is clearly shown w/ my wilingness to take the test. She never answered our call to do the same during the D process.
So, that's where I am. Now I'm off to watch the debate (thank God for Tivo) and then back here to write a test and finish a power point for tomorrow. Big Fun!
