Hi LD--I am going to rain on the parade, I am afraid, but you have to STOP or seriously decrease the focus on her.
Many of us are quite lonely and want our partners back, but overfocusing on our partner's faults, problems conditions, etc.. isn't how it works. We have to really look within at what we brought to the situation and how we are sustaininig it at present. It is harder than he**, but there really isn't a short cut... The constant focus on her MLC and mental health will not bring you two together.
Imagine a time in your life when you were unhappy and wanted to avoid something. Would someone's focus on it encourage you to change or keep you entrenched? I've had to learn this the hard way and want to help you avoid the quagmire that many of us have slogged through.
Blessings. karlah
I might suggest talking with a counselor to help with sorting your issues out so you don't engage family and friends. A therapist will bring objectivity and will also help with accountability for your role in the relationship...good luck.
