Frank, you are dead on in your assessment that confronting the OM would push your wife closer to him.
Another wise choice on your part.
Yeah, I know. It doesn't matter anyway. I give up on her, there's nothing I can do.
The thing that hurts the most is the acceptance by HER friends that even though she is still married, this relationship is ok and it's also ok to hang out with D13 and play family type games - something we should be doing as a family.
I don't know why I even care if she ever comes back. She's happy in her present life. I'm sorry she's going to have a financial meltdown in the near future but I also hope it hurts her a lot.
I'm going as dark as I can given the current situation. I don't want to hate her but I'm getting close.
