First of all -- I think your are decent, strong man. I remember our phone conversation so long ago. The last thing you said to me was, "Strength and Honor". Let's get together in the city sometime.
I understand and support your decision to file. In my spiritual/religious world-view, you have grounds.
We'll see if I have the strength to say enough is enough.
Let me reply...
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-is marriage a dated institution?
Absolutely f*cking NOT!!! It's the only safe place to make our vulnerabilties known, to express our sexuality and to model to children what authentic manhood and womanhood look like. You know this FIB, deep in your bones. Loayalty, sacrifice, love, passion -- it's all there. You want it. You want a woman you can pour your strength into. When marriage works it's like a rock polisher, it smooths out both spouses' ugly sides.
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-are their REAL physiologically changes that occur that DO make monogamy difficult?
Do you mean can people get so sick in the head (Bi-Polar, MLC, Narcissism, Sociopathic disorders) that make a person untrustworthy and incapable of monagamy? You betcha!!! But as someone once told me, a narcissist can't have real relationships with anyone at all.
Yes, some people cheat because of disorders, some because they have no moral compass, others, because society tells them it's OK. Who knows for sure.
The question, FIB, is what do YOU believe about the sanctity of marriage and the acceptability of infidelity?
If you are clear, then be clear.
You are also getting a predominantly Christian sub-text regarding what provides clear grounds for divorce here on the DB board. In the Jewish tradition, lack of harmony in the home is sufficient grounds. I haven't really thought much about the Jewish approach to this, which intrigues me.
