If this was more of a normal situation I would say you are going to have to give him time, and that he has to begin seeing that you are telling the truth. But I to am worried about you and this situation. I am not sure if its be asked and answered before, but have you talked to him about going in C? I feel that he is trying to punish you more then anything else, if he was truly trying to reconcile, then he wouldn't be going out of his way to hurt. Of course there is going to be hurt, and of course sometime we lose our cool and may say something in the heat of the moment that may be hurtful, but we aren't setting out to be hurtful.
Maybe just flat out ask him what he wants from you, what is it going to take for you both to truly begin to heal and move on, and based on what his answer is it may give you some direction on which way to go.
Me - 44 H - 44 M - 19yrs together - 23yrs D16 S8 EA/PA - Bomb Oct20/06 Jan 8/07 Feb 01/07 Jul 15/07 H still @ home Recovered!