I guess it's over

[NikB]

((Trixi))

Try to look at it as a MLO (Mid Life Opportunity)? A D'd friend of mine at work got a butterfly tattoo recently, she said it signified her transformation after her D.

As for SS... hm. The only ideas I have that don't involve contact with your H are also kind of iffy. One would be go visit when you know your H is at work or away from the house. It gets the job done in terms of seeing SS but could be seen very badly by your H (invasion of privacy type thing). The other would be dropping a card/letter to your SS c/o your H. This also might get the job done - but not as quickly as you're hoping for, and it means you're relying on H to pass on the mail. I know, neither is perfect! Just throwing out ideas to see if anything sounds good to you.

If you do have to contact H, maybe instead of calling you can send a short email or text message? It can be polite but to the point - "Hi H, I wanted to welcome SS back if he moved in as planned but I don't have a way to reach him. Can you ask him to give me a call?" The downside to this plan is that he may not have a way to call you other than H's cell.

Hmmmm.

I need to keep thinking..