Sara, that is the classic chicken and egg. It is the same with women needing to feel loved to have sex and men needing sex to feel loved. Someone has to give in and BobbiJo sure seems to be showing trust. Her H has the opportunity to get his sh!t together, but it seems like he is looking for excuses like Woog says.
I dont understand why he rules out AD. No one other than you and he would need to know. Maybe he just needs a bit of education on them so as to remove any percieved bias's he has about them.
I do think tonight would be bad timing and the wrong media (phone). You need to wait until he gets back to insist that he gets back to an IC.
