Moving her from Newbees

[cotoffgard]

Isn't reconciliation the "cheese" and the manner in which we get to the reconciliation phase the "tunnel"? Too bad no one told us that there were so many twists and turns in these tunnels!

Many of the success stories we've read in the books and in the threads are usually those who were lucky enough to do something before the bomb ever gets dropped. However, many of the people who find themselves on this board are well past the air raid and are working their bums off to put a stop-loss strategy in place. The best outcome would be a save M, obviously, but countless people on the BB have benefitted tremendously from the many personal changes and GAL'ing other people encourage them to do. To me, that's success in and of itself.

Your sitch if quite rare, I must say. You're actually going out and having fun with your WAW! I'd trade all the tea in China to be where you are right now! I could see, however, how frustrating it would be for you. You can see, smell, and even reach out for a tiny taste of the cheese, but you can't get to it. This is where I would say you need to ground yourself and get back to DB/DR basics...small, clear, obtainable, measurable goals. As close as you are to reconciliation, you're in some very dangerous territory. Pounce too soon, and your prey will get away. Easy does it...slow and steady...patience...