had a difficult question posed to me last week by my much younger kids - "Daddy, why dont you want to meet and be friends with Ed (OM)?". The only quick answer I could come up with was that they would understand when they got older. My inner thoughts wanted to say "because he is a dishonorable wife stealing scumbag!"
Wow...that's tough bro.
Truth is, he is dishonorable. He's a wife-stealer, and a home-wrecker. He's hurting your kids, and mocking your honor. In another age, Frank, FIB and I would have ridden into town with you and thrashed the bastard. In this age we are supposed to mouth, "I'm OK, you OK, it's all OK".
I would be honored if you asked me to join you in your posse to string up the scumbag.
Since when is it OK to white-wash the truth? Are your children supposed to embrace this villain? Are you supposed to encourage them to accept as a surrogate father a contemptible piece of sh*t?
I know, by saying this about him, you are implicitly saying the same thing about your wife and their mother.
How about them learning to care for this man, in spite of the fact that what he's doing is wrong? Much like they can love their mom even though what she's doing is wrong. Yet -- this is key -- they understand that it's wrong. Are we not mature enough to admit to our children that adults do wrong things? Is the moral universe suspended because a spouse has an affair?
It feels to me that straying spouses and their lovers are emotional terrorists who stap bombs to themselves and hide behind the kids.
