Hello, it's me again! Thank you for accepting me and giving me advice. One thing my betrayed H and I are having problems dealing with is the truth -- not a big surprise there. I completely understand that he cannot believe ANYTHING I say because of all the lies I've told him. How do I respond when he brings up certain situations that occurred during the infidelity and says that he believes it happened a certain way. And he says that he knows I will deny it happened his way. I do deny and explain all the above, i.e. I know he can't trust me, but this is the truth. And it's such a vicious circle. I really just don't know how I should respond when he brings these things up and is convinced he knows the truth. Does this make sense? If you are the BS, and felt you knew the truth about certain things, what would you even want the WS to say if you didn't want them to continue to deny (because it actually is the truth)? Since I cannot convince him when I am telling the truth at this time, I'm just looking to find a response that will show him I understand he can't trust me right now (without adding a "but" -- but I don't know what else to say). LL
