I'm at acceptance. Since around March W has been deliberately trying to detach from me. I remember when she yelled that at me "I HAVE to detach from you!" like it was a goal she was afraid she couldn't get to. I suspect she had her "life coach" telling her she needed to so she could 'grow'.
We all know the weird behaviors she went through the next several months 'detaching'. It wasn't until she was 'house sitting' and she met OM who came to the house looking for her friend 'to talk'.
So now she's 'detached' and moving on. Because she has someone to fill that empty place inside her. Who knows, maybe they can start up a codependent relationship like we eventually had. All her friends are rooting for her because, my gosh, she is happy now.
As for me, you're all right. I'm 'dad' and I'm all my kids have that represents any kind of stability. I'll give them a better life after divorce than my Dad did for me. Because I know how that feels.
