I am not trying to beat up on my wife through you. It is a hard row to hoe and getting the warm an fuzzies from folks here when you originally posted that your husband was demeaning you is not going to get you to sit on the couch and let him vent his anger and frustration and hurt while you bite your tongue. No arguments, no trying to justify your point of view to him (or us). Just bite your tongue.
This is training ground for you because the real fight is for your marriage and your husband's love and trust. Not for our approval.