I agree he needs IC. He did find it helpful or I don't think he would have gone 4 weeks in a row. But now "life" and travel have gotten in the way. When he is in Canada or Idaho 3 or 4 days a week he doesn't think he has time to go to IC on the other day(s) he is in town. But, not my problem to solve, is it?
He says NO WAY to any anti-depressant meds.
I think I am just at a point where, if there were no kids, I would kick his butt out of the house and say call me when you are SERIOUS about working on our marriage and re-committing to me. (I know he goes to Retro but not sure how much he is investing himself in it...)
But as Kalni has mentioned, with kids involved nobody wants to be viewed as the bad guy (bad mom!) who split up the family and denied the kids a chance to grow up with the family intact.
WHAT IS MY GOAL? My goal is to wake up in the mornings and know that I live with a husband who loves me for the person I am, not the person he wishes I was. To be touched, held, kissed, talked to without having to be the initiator. To spend time with my husband and kids together as a family, without anything hanging over our heads. I want to be free to love my H with my whole heart and not fear that he is mentally packing his bags.... To know that realistically we will have arguments from time to time but that they don't mean we are "over", they mean we are "human".
The thing is, I don't know that me fighting like hell on my own will get me to my goal........
