Everyone -- thank you for all your remarks. I do apologize if I cause betrayed spouses to trigger and that's not my intention at all. I have been to another infidelity site which has specific forums for WS and BS and it's pretty clearcut where everyone should post. However, lately I've felt it isn't as pro-marriage as I am looking for. I didn't think about whether it would be appropriate or not to post in this forum because I thought the common denominator here is the fact that we are trying to save our marriages. I will keep coming here for guidance because you all have been so helpful to me. And I will be sure to edit my posts for "triggers" and pray I don't offend anyone. If I can be of help to anyone, I am certainly always lurking around. Thank you again for everyone's insight. LL
