This is so very true! And when you start going out with ladies that appreciate you, you will start to forget that you ever were hurting.
Sadly, this is true frank. Well...sad for the old M, which, for both of us, is dead. A woman at my hospital is showing interest in me. She is divorced with one child. For the first time....I openly told someone that I was in a difficult divorce. The wife of my D5's soccer coach started a convo with me last weekend. She recently lost her mom to cancer. I was able to get her to open up and talk about it. Sometimes, this is where being a physician helps. We talked about her father, who is now alone. Perhaps, my confiding in her was no surprise...I sit alone at my daughter's soccer games on Saturday's.
Last weekend, she walked up to me and stuffed an envelope in my sweatshirt pocket...the number of a divorced woman...friend of hers. Although I am not really ready for this...I accepted it. There will be life for you again.
Originally Posted By: theoden
It was fine for you to tell your 13 year old what your W was doing was wrong. You might even add that's why you asked her to leave, because she was cheating on you.
Theoden, I know that you've helped me in the past...we even talked once. But...I do have to disagree again. This is not right, IMO, and even goes against all counseling recommendations for children of divorcing parents.
Frank...I don't recommend that you say such things and, I know, as a man, you wouldn't do that. I will repeat what others have told me...children are a lot brighter than you think and the truth will out. Frank...stay to the high road. The kids don't have to hear it or see it in print. Saying things are such as 'mom needs to decide what is best in her life' are MUCH better than saying 'mommy is a cheater'.
Think.
Finally, frank, I, also, admire you for making that phone call to your stepmother. That was simply plain courage, strength and honor.
As for your W, all things being equal and, jokingly saying the PDF says, almost all regret this 2-3 years down the line. Those are rear-view mirror comments...pieces of information that you find out long after you've moved on. Don't wait for that to happen. My dad used to give me one of those corny WWII lines when I was growing up:
Originally Posted By: dad
Don't wait for your ship to come in. Row out and meet it.
Stay strong. BIF
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
