LD - Stop trying to get into her head about the "brake job" business. There is a tendency for the LBS to try and desperately assign meaning and context to what we are seeing and why, in hopes that it is positive.Some behaviors are impossible to decipher. Stop discussing the M/R with her mother. Her mother needs to think you are moving on also. I don't care what anyone says..blood is thicker than water.

Leave it alone. The last thing you want to do is to perpetuate drama.

Your W has some problems and internal struggles that she needs to address.

Me- 47
W- 45
Married 22 years
Together 30 years
No Kids, 1 dog, 1 Cat
2005 - 2007 W in MLT
1/08 - Crisis hits
3/08 W drops Bomb and leaves in the middle of the night. Admits to PA
4/08 W files for divorce
8/08 Divorce final