Very powerful posts frank. You sound good. A bit too logical but that is okay. Go back and reread Dr Gray about ensuring the emotions get to run also. You are hurt and it is okay to feel that. And anger, and sadness, and fear, and ...
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She's not lonely or hurting or anything. She's got the life she's been wanting, except for the financial stability. A 'nice guy' who she has things in common with, and none of Frank's problems.
You know, I feel the same way - that they are so happy now. But I know better and you do to. The 'happiness' thing is only an assumption on our part. Her life is not a bed of roses and guilt is a powerful thing.
I do feel for her but this is all her choice. Nothing excuses breaking up a family the way she is doing it (not that there is a good way, but there are less painful ways).
Frank's problems? She is hooked up to a loser. Remember the last time and the guy dumped her? I am making book it happens again. But even if he does not he is a loser - hooking up with a married woman.
And forget the age thing. She will never be happy with someone her own age or younger. She needs that father figure after all. So did mine.
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just wants to live the 'simple' life and not have to deal with the kinds of issues that came into our life. They were huge ...
Interesting I actually got the 'simple life' speech when we decided to separate. Some people never grow up. It is okay to dream a better life but they also need to see the harsh realities around us. And do something about them rather than run away.
They know nothing but cut and run.
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...but I was an over emotional over achiever who crashed and burned and stayed there way too long.
