I know I sound like a broken record but your life's too short comment was pressure on him and he knew exactly what you were talking about.
You asking if he is going to come in and eat is more pressure. Instead of asking if he is going to come in, maybe at times ask him if he would like to come in...........
Lay off the pressure and the way you use your words.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
